Need advice!

[lpdcomic]

Ok, so I have a problem, I will decide on my own eventually soon, but I want other peoples outlooks on this. I live in East Canada, have for 10 years, I was born and raised in Vancouver (West Canada). I want to go to school, and be ready for when my girlfriend moves to Canada (she is from China). I have a choice, I can stay here in my current city, I have my mother here, my best friends in the world, my sister and her husband and kids, and other family, its a small city, and there is nothing to do/no opportunity for good school. But its still a nice quit little place, I also pay rent to my Mom. OR I can move to Vancouver and live with my Father and his wife, they have a nice house, love near my dream school I can go to there, I can also be with the family i grew up with again. I can live there for free as long as I study hard and get a job...but I will lose my friends (online contact is still good, but not the same). If I think about my girl as well, she would feel more at home in a place like Vancouver because it is very Asian there, and closer to her home if she wants to visit! I'm torn, Friends/family, or future/girlfriend (I'm sure she would not leave me over this, but she has said she wants to live in Vancouver). What do you guys think???? What should I do??? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY! P.S- I go to Vancouver each summer to see my Father, so I know what its like there.

 

[alexsdu]

Out of curiosity, how old are you now? Coz sometimes the decision is based on the age as well.

OK, since I'm Asian, raised with some Asian culture, I would stay with my mom, since it's a child duty(especially son) to take care their parents when they grow older.
Unless I got job that required me to live away from my family. Even then I'll give them some money. I used to do that, gave some of my salary to my mom and grandma, before I got a lot of responsibilities nowadays.

Since you said that you usually visit your dad every summer, and if you decide to move in with your dad, why don't do the same thing the other way around - visit your mom and your friends in the summer instead?
And you said there a good school that you've wanted to go to in Vancouver. Sound like a good future to me.
Personally, if it was me, I would go for this option.


Important thing is, have you talk this over with both your parents?
Best way is to have a sit together to discuss about this.
I'm sure both of them love you and would cooperate, no matter what issue they had with each other, for their son's sake.

 

[vittusk]

I think you should move to your dad's house, why?... The education must be your priority in this moment of your life, girlfriends come and go, and definitely your mother wants the best for you and education is the most important legacy than parents can left to their sons.
That is my sincere answer to you. :)

 

[lpdcomic]

Thanks guys!!! I have talked to my parents, and they said its my choice, my mother has her boyfriend to care for her and my sister lives downstairs, I feel I should go to Vancouver, for my dream and future, I will see my friends again someday! Plus is I go there I can be with my girlfriend sooner, but the main thing I want is education! By the way I am 19 (20 in September). I've not really lived with my Dad since I was 10, so it would be nice, he really misses me. I will miss my mother, but she accepts I want to do things in my life. So yeah, I'm still kinda torn, but I will figure it out I hope soon! Thank you!

 

[vittusk]

I wish you the best luck of this world, greetings!. :)

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm i say go with education like the others... :x After everything you could always go back to your mom though you should give it a try and get a decent education first...

 

[alexsdu]

I concurred with what the others said, education should be the first priority.

Best of luck to you, mate.

 

[lpdcomic]

Thanks guys!!!