[Psy] Perspectives

[~SnowAngel~]

A perspective is not what you see, it's how you see it. We can go up to a mountain and look over the same hills, but can have different thoughts about them. Examples like this shape what we see in life. How we behave, talk, or live are all effected by our perspectives in life. However, sometimes we make conclusions on one part instead of looking for the while picture. Take this picture for example:

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Each person there truly believes what they are seeing. The only problem is, they aren't willing to look for other ways to think about it. Each person has a unique way of seeing the situation. Each one of them can be correct from their perspective, and you might not be able to convince them otherwise. Some are willing to listen and try to think differently, some aren't. Having this ability is extremely valuable in life, especially in knowing the difference between two people.

Another example:

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Try to think of 2 things that the cat might be thinking about, and 2 the baby might be thinking about.
People tend to think about things as it seems, jumping to conclusions and make hands-down assumptions that they are right. They think they're right based on things such as experience, stereotypes, or according to themselves.
Assuming that what you thought of this picture is correct, does that make either person wrong? There are times when both people can be right or wrong. The only way to find out is by changing your perspective and see how they might think (empathy). For example, what are their intentions? motivation to look at the fish?

Take this picture for example, which person is right?

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These people are in the same situation, but are driven to think about it differently. One is on top thinking it's not a big deal. We can take that perspective in life for alot of things if we looks for ways to do so. Do you think the one standing could help the other? What if there was something more to the situation than either one is willing to admit? Take this next picture for example:

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Which character is saved, and which is doomed? Sometimes we might be neglecting a solution and try to look for other ways out of it. How would you try to save both people? How do you solve a situation where you can go either way? See the next pic:

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The main Idea I'm putting out there is that there are many ways to look at the same thing. Sometimes one way is better than another, sometimes either is right. But the biggest thing to learn is that the willingness to use a different perspective in a mature way is a valuable thing to have.

Some questions for you:
Think about one trait about yourself, in what ways can that be good and bad?
Think of someone you can get along with alot, in what ways could you not get along? What can you do to change that?
Think of someone you haven't gotten along with, name 5 good things about that person.
Think of some pros and cons of having one perspective vs 2 perspectives.
What can you do in everyday life to help promote the use of multiple perspectives?


finally, people tend to see only what they're looking for. Try watching this video:

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this video is important too~ skip the first 45s if you want.

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[Hinode]

1. Stubborn. Bad since i'll usually end up fighting with people and good since i'll end up staying with my opinions no matter how much the other person might dislike it.

2. My best friend that i meet quite often. I can say that his favorite character in a game is overpowered (he thinks she is underpowered). I can tell him that there were no asians on the bus. To avoid getting him mad i should keep those thoughts to myself.

3. A more "neutral" friend of mine. He's pretty clever, he's quite random, he's a nice person who accepts my opinions as just opinions, he's someone who I can talk about some serious things with, he's honest.

4. For example. If i were to walk for 30 minutes to get somewhere i could think "It's really cold outside..." or "It's quite refreshening with a walk, the cold will easily wake me up a bit."

5. To think more positively even if i have a hard time doing that. The times that i actually manages to do so i often come up with both a positive and negative perspective of something that i have to do.

I've watched the movie before since you sent it to me... i think... :/ I didn't even react to the bear xD

 

[musangbeku]

Thanks for this thread [MENTION=17020]~SnowAngel~[/MENTION]; :)

okay, here we go:

Think about one trait about yourself, in what ways can that be good and bad?
like Hinode, I'm quite stubborn and hold my perspective until I know I'm wrong. It will be good in many situations IMO, I become more firm and hard to be shaken. But in other way, I kinda don't value people who I'm not compatible with them, ends up I don't have many friends, but it's okay since I prefer a few friends with close relationship than many friends but I hardly know them.

Think of someone you can get along with alot, in what ways could you not get along? What can you do to change that?
My best friend at once my gf, she is the only one I can share myself fully and know me from top to bottom. hmm we find our personality is very different like yin and yang, and all we can do is try each other perspectives and willing to understanding.

Think of someone you haven't gotten along with, name 5 good things about that person.
My oldest lil bro. He can do good drawing, is more masculine than me, overly confident, quite stubborn, is kind to all people. but I don't like him :P

Think of some pros and cons of having one perspective vs 2 perspectives.
One perspective is good because its make us more balance and firm, but can't give empathy to other people. On the other hand 2 perspectives is great because it make us think more of our act and decision, but sometimes make us confused.

What can you do in everyday life to help promote the use of multiple perspectives?
maybe introspection is what we can do. I mean, if before sleep we introspect ourselves, our good thing/ bad thing we do that day, and looking it in other perspectives, we can do better next day, and develop more empathy.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Think about one trait about yourself, in what ways can that be good and bad?
Im shy for some reason im not sure?... Well actually i know the origins of it but as for the other stuff as to why im still shy... not sure... its horrible in social situations though i can sort of ignore it for short moments when i need to... but it is... useful since theres a lot of misconceptions behind it which i use to get out of unpleasant situations? Not that its a good thing >< I suppose the reason im still shy is cuz ive been like this for a while so... i cant change myself as much as i would like? It doesnt particularly feel great to use it for an excuse though... Im quiet so i dont openly object to things that bother me and if subtle hints dont work then it just kind of boils in me... Though i usually have people to talk to and outlets of sorts... I dread talking to teachers and most people i dont really know... its just uncomfortable...
Think of someone you can get along with alot, in what ways could you not get along? What can you do to change that?
Mind if i think of two? I mostly connect with people through similarities although i find stuff where we differ fairly soon after the continuous talks that i like to have with people... How we dont get along... well its mostly just stuff in my head... keeps thinking that stuff is worse than it actually is... I do think im fairly accepting so other's view will be their views... i think im like that person hinode dislikes... Playfully avoiding what i can... So basically i am not sure in which ways we dont get along...
Think of someone you haven't gotten along with, name 5 good things about that person.
I can think of a few that i disliked but i guess i will take their common points? They can be helpful although i disagree with their reasons for helping most of the time... They tend to be strong minded which means they wont be changing anytime fast... Not sure if thats good or not... They assume stuff though i guess i do as well... assumptions may or may not be as true but... idk... doesnt always turn out well... They do change a bit... if only for a little... when they finally bother me enough to get me to ask... I suppose theyre brave enough to take that step which i would never be able to myself... who knows whether that is actually a good thing or not... but at least... it is something that i can admire...
Think of some pros and cons of having one perspective vs 2 perspectives.
Other perspectives may help you be a bit more open minded although if the person who is talking about their perspective is hiding stuff then it may not turn out as well... It isnt very nice to be manipulated at least... You would at least know the reasoning behind your own perspective and hopefully its decent... check logical fallacies if you arent sure~ Theyre fairly interesting at least...
What can you do in everyday life to help promote the use of multiple perspectives?
I suppose asking people for their opinions would be the easiest way to do anything... but that has its own difficulty and there may be reasons why they wont say... Relating to their experiences and thinking why they would do something may be a decent option otherwise...

 

[Karlotto]

Think about one trait about yourself, in what ways can that be good and bad?

That I like myself. In one way it`s good that I`m comfortable enough with myself that I`m able to admit my flaws and face them as a part of me. On the other side of the coin though, I tend to come off as self centered without really thinking about what I`m saying.

Think of someone you can get along with alot, in what ways could you not get along? What can you do to change that?/Think of someone you haven't gotten along with, name 5 good things about that person.

My best friend. We enjoy just about everything we do together and never hesitate to tell each other about our problems, though (and I`m gonna tie this in with the second question) we have polar opposite views on just about everything you can think of. In fact, the only thing I can think of that we both have the same views on are anime and video games. Never once have I ever brought up my opinion on something without him disagreeing with me. Though I still look up to him. I`d never admit it to his face, but he`s one of the smartest people I`ve ever met, he works hard and devotes himself to his tasks, he doesn`t make stupid decisions nearly as much as I do, he knows how to manage his money, and he`s an overall model citizen. That`s not to say he doesn`t have his flaws; he`s egotistical, thinks incredibly highly of himself, and is stubborn as hell, but the good thing is he knows it and does it on purpose...or is that bad?

Think of some pros and cons of having one perspective vs 2 perspectives.

As for 1 vs 2 perspectives, a pro of a singular perspective is that you have no conflicting feelings on that perspective, no "what-if`s" which lends itself to easier decisions in relation to that perspective. Though, and this would be a con, it also means you aren`t open to other views of that perspective. You only see it in one way which can be potentially hazardous.

What can you do in everyday life to help promote the use of multiple perspectives?


Lastly, I`d say the easiest way to promote the use of multiple perspectives is to have multiple perspectives yourself, and allow yourself to see things from anothers position. "Walk in their shoes" as they say.

 

[Baal]

Think about one trait about yourself, in what ways can that be good and bad?
I'm Stubborn Good 'cause I don't give up too easily, and bad 'cause I fight.

Think of someone you can get along with alot, in what ways could you not get along? What can you do to change that?
I mostly get along with them by video games, but it also causes debate over stuff in the game. I can't debate with them and should agree with what they are saying.

Think of someone you haven't gotten along with, name 5 good things about that person.
intelligent, accepting, funny, elligent, and conversational

Think of some pros and cons of having one perspective vs 2 perspective
Pros of one perspective is that you can stick by seeing things one way and accept them which can be bad also in that nothing can change your mind.
Having two perspectives will allow you to see things differently and can help you choose a decision but can also make you come up undecided. The one of cons is that you can become indecisive and too much regretting.

What can you do in everyday life to help promote the use of multiple perspectives?
Think and study, accept that there can't be one right answer.

 

[Eternal Blue]

People live their lives bound by what the C as "right" & "true"...that's what they call "reality"...however,"right" & "true" r nothing but vague terms...their
reality could turn out 2 b an illusion...every1 is living by their own assumptions.

Yeah I'm smart too

 

[~SnowAngel~]

see this video:

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