- Dec 8, 2012
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This is quite interesting: I once heard that there actually is no such thing as love and that the only thing that makes people "fall in love" is pure sexual attraction. For a while the sexual attraction is enough to keep the relationship together, and during this time the love between the two people "grow". After that stage the sexual attraction kind of goes away, but the "love" that grew during the first part of the relationship keeps people together. Now this "love" is supposedly a combination of familiarity and the desire not to be alone. Apparently you unconscious calculate how advantageous it would be for you to leave the current safety and familiarity of the current relationship, and search for a new relationship. If, internally the safety and familiarity of the relationship is enough for you, you'll stay in that relationship.
Tl;dr: There is no such thing as love, only sexual attraction and then safety.
Source: Talks with friends on this topic
This isn't necessarily true. For example, there are asexuals. They feel absolutely NO sexual attraction towards anyone, yet can sometimes still maintain a platonic relationship despite not being physically attracted to a person.