From what I just looked up, Bara is pretty much what you just said. Yaoi with muscled, masculine men. Yaoi tends to be used by western fans as a catch-all term for homo erotica in hentai, when in japan it actually refers only to the genre aimed primarily at female readers (fujoshi) almost always with bishounen characters in situations following the typical Seme / Uke formula. While Bara is a subgenre that is aimed primarily at actual gay males and usually focused on buff, masculine men with situations and plots that are less formulaic and more seinen-manga like. It's not as well known outside japan as yaoi, but is apparently a long-running and distinct genre in japan.
Personally, I'm not repulsed by gay content in hentai like some of us are, so much as unmoved. I can look at a yaoi work and think that the art or plot are decent or whatever, but don't find it the slightest bit erotic. It just doesn't do anything for me, so I don't bother reading it.
The one yaoi type thing that actually bothers me are Traps. Not because it disgusts me, so much as it pisses me off. I know guys who like cute shotas and such think a good trap is pure magic and the hottest thing, but for me it just feels like a betrayal. Like I've been tricked into thinking a character was a cute girl only to discover it was actual a waste of time. I recently read one of the latest works from Red-Rum who made that awesome LOVE&PEACH that was just translated. I was rather excited about it since I love that guy's art, only to discover that the 'girl' in the middle of things was actually a trap. Shocking particularly since the magazine Comic Penguin Club doesn't usually do gay stuff so I really wasn't expecting it.
This is something that makes me sympathise with the haters a little, since I understand the feeling of betrayal they might get when reading a work they assumed was all happy sex only to have it turn into NTR out of nowhere. While throwing in a twist or a genre shift into something to surprise the audience can have huge impact and be a nice surprise assuming the person in question likes both what they were after and what they got in the end. But if it turns from something you really like into something you don't want or even hate, then it's all the more disappointing and frustrating.
The only things that actually turn me off completely are the usual offenders. Extreme scat and guro. I can take a bit of scat assuming it's just thrown in there and isn't the main theme, and the same for guro. But complete, full-on Coprophilia or gruesome and explicit guro will pierce even my thick skin and have me give it a wide berth. I go from arousal to simply nauseous.
I agree, I can't really stand media with guro and scat as main theme. I wonder whether ntr or scat/guro has larger fanbase. I'm sure from other people perspective, our taste is a "bit" different :D
Sometimes when i encounter a bit of scat in h-game/anime I just pretend its not shit that come out from her :D
I pretty much like anything with good story, cheating, harem. I used to into harem anime. I haven't encountered trap one with good story though.We have been talking about mind control and thing we don't like, but what other genre/situation do you all enjoy apart from ntr obviously, mine would be concensual bondage/bdsm like this http://exhentai.org/g/746308/9fae468fd6/ or the manga Nana to kaoru (shame it isn't hentai), sadly i can't think of many out there (at least translated).
PD: saying things lolicon, straigh shota or milfs doesn't count that is more of a caracther body type than a genre/situation, mental caractherizations like tsundere, kuudere, yandere do count