THINGS GUYS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT GIRLS

[Infamous]

really? i think i look like someone who's vocabulary is 88% swearing lol

 

[FinalPyre]

[MENTION=8332]samyeung46[/MENTION] that is probably one of the reasons I can use it well in humour. Most people think I don't swear much at all (though I've become a bit more liberal the last few years). Funny because I work in a kitchen and that is one of the places I basically never swear in because I just can't help but feel like it is improper to swear at work. I actually have one guy at work who tries to bug me a lot because he wants me to eventually just cuss him out sometime. :P

 

[Infamous]

i'm an extremely informal kind of person lol. makes it tough to get a job lol

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Lol humor in swearing xD Hmm... im just that quiet chinese boy that no one really knows so that makes it seem like i dont swear... if i even talk at all xD I try not to of course but that doesnt always... work? xD I remember when i was in summer camp and the guys watching were like dont swear but i had no idea what swearing even meant x3 I guess im fairly... slow with stuff? x3

 

[Mizu-chan]

I'm probably one of the most vulgar chicks you'd ever meet. Almost to the point of being raunchy. But I can be polite when need be. Almost sickeningly polite....

 

[FinalPyre]

Because, as I'm sure you can all tell, I have a rather strange form of humour (even more-so in person), I tend to make sure I test the waters before I get comfortable in a new environment. When I started working at my current job, I just did what I did at my last job and didn't really talk to anyone unless I had to/it was useful to. Then when I was at a work party and was actually making light conversation, one of the waitresses came up to me and said "I think this is the first time I have ever actually heard you talking..." and I realized I could probably start talking more at work. :P

By now I am pretty comfortable there, but I still don't bring out the full force of my jokes like I do with my brother, because we are insane and should be locked away and I don't want that yet.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm now if only you and your brother were in the same job ;p I wonder how that would work out~

Im not sure why i dont talk actually? Im just really quiet and i cant seem to find out why... Talking to anyone just makes me really... nervous? for some reason... :/

 

[FinalPyre]

You sound pretty normal. Just a bit of an introvert, which isn't bad. I am a bit asocial myself. I don't really dislike people (well, perhaps individually anyways >_> ), I just like being alone quite a bit too, and I think parties are more of just a bother than a good time. Some activities can actually make me feel inexplicably nervous too. If I don't play Go real-time for a while and then try to start, for the first several games I will start to feel super nervous before any match starts. It will probably be really bad again since I haven't really played in quite a while.

Either that or you just love everyone so much that just talking to them makes your heart go doki doki.

Also my brother would never last in the job I have. He is too inept in the kitchen and it would take ages for him to learn. I was bad when I started, but he is some new level of bad.

 

[ProXpert]

Man... Girls are an amazing thing.... Some guys just dnt know or even care to give a damn.. Random post I know.. Just passing by.. Descided to break the conversation

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm... before judo matches im just really nervous ad cant calm down? Not that people can tell since i dont show much outwardly...

When i took whatever test i was... about neutral for most things xD More introvert than extrovert~ During parties i would probably just sit around and watch people or read a book/get on the laptop... My friends tend to be more extroverted and might drag me in though xD

Lol his own category of bad xD

 

[FinalPyre]

[MENTION=8332]samyeung46[/MENTION] one time I asked my brother to watch the bacon I was cooking for us both while I went to do something. When I came back he was standing there watching it ever so diligently, as it burned black in the pan. He is also six years older than me.


I'd be nervous before a judo match. Mostly because I don't know judo.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Lol wow xD Hmm... tell him what he shouldve done? xD

Hmm... i mostly expect to get murdered quickly...

 

[Mizu-chan]

Someone who lets bacon burn? He should be put in jail without bail.

 

[FinalPyre]

I know; it is a high crime in all courts I know. He was 24 at the time. No excuses! XD

[MENTION=8332]samyeung46[/MENTION] I told him what he was supposed to do afterwards: A good job. Or even a half decent job. Or even any job at all. :)

 

[Mizu-chan]

Gasp!! Inexcusable!!

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Is this a sentence for life i see?

 

[Mizu-chan]

What other reasonable sentence could there be?

 

[FinalPyre]

Well you could make him eat the bacon, which would probably be just as bad at that point.

 

[~SnowAngel~]

This is a piece of jewel information that you've provided. Thanks for your effort in it.
Just being curious here, please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think these just apply for the Western side.

What about the Asians? Do you females think its around the same? Thanks in advance ^^

that's always one thing that gets me x-x This is modern 14-16 year-olds culture that generally applies to most ppl. (excluding mature ones not raised in the subcultures)
I could try finding things for another culture, but it'd be really difficult :o I've read things from books to articles for my side. The best thing to do is try searching a bit for yourself. I got this from searching "things guys should know" or wtv.

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for compliments~ it depends on your relationship with the other person (regardless whether you're marriage or in a relationship).
Girls can usually tell when you're just being polite vs showing interest in another girl as far as compliments goes. If they get mad over simple things, that's a maturity issue on their part. Guys really don't have to bend over backwards to some queen, or vice versa x-x

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cursing-wise, I'd say to be the judge for yourself. There's people who mind, and people who don't. I've known plenty of kids in the early teens to curse lots, even worse really XD so if you'd rather not, you'll be happier with someone who didn't I'd say. (my dad curses a little too much, and my mom doesn't. butttt I guess we have to live with it)
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Of course this list isn't anything like a "how-to" book of women or wtv. Insights like this are just to help you become more aware or observant, rather than clueless. Some books give you simple ideas to build on, while others might get into nit-picky details like this list XD. Go far enough into taking another perspective and you may actually agree with how ppl do things :o
I did this when I learned about guys' and girls' perspectives on different situations. I related to their emotions which turned out to be helpful :o and yes... Reading Books pays off XD
one thing i'm interested in is whether or not certain activities inhibit these relationships ;;

 

[FinalPyre]

Wait since when was this thread not about bacon? XD

 

[Mizu-chan]

lol really?

 

[FinalPyre]

[MENTION=38897]Mizu-chan[/MENTION] I have a remedy. See my new bacon thread.

 

[FAMAS]

Books are gay.

 

[GenKiDan]

Ah I was not lazy, and read it all inc the last 10 pages.....

But now I forgot the many comments I was gonna answer too \^^/ And if I did, it would be one awesome long text wall...

But all in all, an interesting read but, some of the 60 points seemed quite superficial, and limited to certain young girls way of thinking. Some of it seemed like overly generalizations, to the point that some girls might actually get offended by it or feel like their being put in a box.
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Random stuff I remember:

I Don't like to cuz either. Not the type, all though it occasionally happens I'm afraid. I get a bit disappointed sometimes over myself when I do swear.

[MENTION=37707]FinalPyre[/MENTION] ;you and your brother seems like you could have a lot of fun. It's the insanity that sometimes makes it possible to laugh so hard your abs start to hurt. It's 2 bad I only got myself to share it with.

The give a compliment to an other woman/girl if she asks for it is no big deal, your "wife" would be/should be smart enough or mature enough to understand that. Ofc this can all be very circumstantial and/or relative.

I don't eat Bacon

And I don't generally care too much about keeping up appearances,..or actually, that depends on what we are actually talking about. Perhaps I do.

I currently have somewhat long hair myself, but have for the most part of life always had short. It sure is easier with short hair. And I would possible ask a girl whats the best way of keeping it all in check. Seems like I always have to wear something on my head in order to keep it getting in the way. And I would not like to wear any kind of hair gel stuff......I should probably just tie it up somehow behind my head, if only all parts of it was long enough.

 

[SSJCyberSonic]

Good gravy! I'll never remember all these things!

On a more serious note though, there are to things in this list that directly contradicts what happens to me in real life:
"15) scenario time! -you like a girl named ashley, ashley has a friend named brenda. brenda comes up you in the hall and asks “do you like ashley?
50) if you ask a girl out directly, more likely than not, she will say yes to you. even if she only has lukewarm feelings for you, because it will give her the chance to get to know you better and get to like you even more."

Above scenario did happen to me late in high school. To make things even more complicated, the girl involved was a girl I grew up with (I've known her since she was 5) so I was really surprised when said Brenda passed me the note with the infamous question. I've loved this girl since I actually really knew what love was, so of course I was more than happy to hear this.

Sadly, when I plucked up the courage to ask her out, she rejected me, saying she doesn't feel that way about me. Needless to say I was pretty devastated, and even though it's been almost 9 years since this happened, I haven't really recovered from that.

Guess there must be something horribly wrong with me, heh?